Sunday, February 19, 2006

Ever wonder what does success or failures actually mean and how closely related are they to you? Let's have a look. =)

S - Sense of Direction

When we have a target or aim for us to work on, we have a vision of where we are going to, in the direction we had set in the first place. It's only when you have a sense of direction will you be able to plan ahead. =)

U - Understanding

With communication as the basis of life, it is important that we are able to communicate well so that we can be successful both in their lives and ours. How do we do that? By learning to show respect to others by listening, separate fact from opinion and most importantly, learn to communicate!!

C - Courage

Courage is the prerequisite for creating change. If we want something to be changed we have to be daring to not only say we want to change, but we have to do it too. But courage doesn't mean being a hero in moment of crisis, but to act boldly for the little things like pursuing your goals with opposition. It also includes the willingness to make mistakes or risked being ridiculed. It can also mean consciously choosing new behaviour or attitude.

C - Charity

By learning to further someone's success can you also further your success. We do not need to fear that by helping people, it is actually hindering ourselves from being successful. It gives us an insight on how can we help other people that others may help us in our work to become successful. We sow what we reap, by learning to sow into others' lives for their success will we reap with other people sowing in our lives for our success.

E - Esteem

A healthy self esteem is the cornerstone to success. As we are have the self esteem, we do things with confidence and we need not fear that people will laugh at us because we understand ourselves what capabilities we have, where are our limits. A low self esteem is equivalent to digging and designing our destruction!! *Low esteem not equal to being modest* Everyone is unique, we must learn to identify that and put it in high regard because it's a precondition to happiness and success, not egotism.

S - Self Confidence

By believing yourself as a confident and competent being, you are able to do many things. We must always remember that we are successful people, not failures. If we meet with a failure, it's just a stepping stone for our success.

S - Self Acceptance

We must learn to accept who we are, acknowledge our worthiness that we may not try to be someone else because we can never impersonate other people to create success for ourselves. By recognising your own worth, you can then be able to do great things.

So these are the qualities for success. Let's look at how we can identify signs of failures in our life.

F - Fustration

You can be either fustrated with people or yourself in times of failure when you start to blame why did it failed etc.
It's usually the warning sign for change. We must be able to evaluate the cause of the change and act on the cause to stop ourselves from being fustrated if such a thing happens again.

A - Aggresiveness

A question most commonly asked is "Why is this happening to me?" and lots of questions that start with why. This is usually the worst questions you can ask. And usually you would sink into aggressiveness whereby you would bash things up or throw things around.
How about being slow to anger but quick to think and evaluate "What can I do to turn things around?"

I - Insecurity

It leads to false beliefs and you don't have the motivation to go anywhere. You tend to settle with unrealistic goals and try means and ways to achieve them but you will still fail. This adds on to your 'List of Failures'. You tend to grab on to what you have and not willing to let go.

L - Loneliness

There is a feeling of emptiness within you that you feel dejected. You might even sink into depression because you fail to receive care and love from people around you.
Try to identify that it is different from being alone because when you are alone, you are able to do work with productivity.

U - Uncertainty

You are unsure of your purpose in life and you can be misled easily. You will tend to hold back and not do anything so as to avoid mistakes and not learn to take risks that can help you to breakthrough anymore.
We should have the failth that we can do it, that we should learn to pick ourselves up from mistakes instead of avoiding it. We have to be certain to make strong and good decisions to overcome our anxiety.

R - Resentment

Resentment robs people of their happiness, of their souls and their feelings. All they have within them is hatred owards people that they are unwilling to forgive this certain person or forget this particular incident.
We should try to release our resentments because it is a burden that stops us from even looking forward.

E - Emptiness

It causes us to have a poor self image whereby we lead a life that's meaningless, purposeless and hopeless. It's something beyond the stage of loneliness. Because of that we don't have a sense of direction and we tend to have low self esteem.

We have to recognise that failures is not fatal but a stepping stone to greater success and a strong signal for us to change, to be stronger in life.

That's all folks. Hope it's not too bombastic for you guys. Haha.

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